• Clare Alden

Listen to Yourself



When you trust yourself, you will know how to live.

Goethe



“I feel like something is wrong, but I don’t know what it is.” I have felt this, I have heard this, I seen the results of this gnawing, recurring, disturbing feeling that often originates in the pit of your stomach and can extend from the top of your throbbing head to the bottom of your aching feet.


The first suggestion that comes to mind is to get help—a doctor, a therapist, a friend. But sometimes something as seemingly simple as asking for help is a complicated proposition overrun with obstacles contrived by others and beset by barriers of our own making.


I don’t want to be a burden.

Asking for help is a weakness.

I don’t want to impose

I don’t have time.

I’ve always felt this way, this is normal.

I don’t know what kind of help I need.

I don’t even know what is wrong, how can I get help?


So, let’s take a step back.

Just listen to yourself. A few minutes a day. Maybe just a few minutes a week.





Write in a journal.

Write on a scrap of paper.

Write anything that comes to mind.

Write what you are feeling.

Write what is bothering your brain.

Write what you want.

Write whatever flows out of the end of your pen onto the page.


This simple practice can help you connect to your feelings and clarify your thoughts.


You don’t like to write? No worries—express yourself in any way that feels right to you.


Paint. Draw.

Sing. Talk to yourself. Talk to your God.

Dance, run, walk.

Meditate.

Hang art that inspires you.

Listen to music that touches your heart.

Go to a quiet place. Get lost in a crowd.


Do whatever it takes to build connections between your mind and body, your thoughts and feelings, and your needs and your actions.


You are in the best position to know what is best for you.


Listen to yourself.



Message from Clare

Because I care.